A Letter to My Future Son or Daughter or Both of You

Dear My Beauty Kindheart’s Son and Daughter,

Hello, this is your mom from 2015. I know it’s too earlier to write a letter to you, but I think it doesn’t matter, even thought I’m not married yet, and dunno who is Mr. Right, and I’m still in twenty something, and too much dreams to reach, but when I read Om Manampiring’s Blog, I feel touch to write something for you, my future son or daughter or both of you. This is the same letter with Om Manampiring, I just add some thoughts from my mind. So let's start from my apology.

I’m sorry you were not brought into a perfect world. Instead, you were born into a place of suffering of natural disasters, but worst of all, you will be living among humans full with faults, same as you.

But let me assure you, that this imperfect world provides opportunities of little paradises along the way. That human kind is given the precious ability to feel. Because even though you will feel anger, sad, hate, grieved, despair, betrayed, alone, afraid. So too you will feel love, hope, joy, compassion, friendship, and courage.

But don’t dwell at the bottom and whimper for too long. Because believe me when I tell you, victory may lie at the destination, but true glory is when someone gets back on his feel again, dusts himself off, and walk again.

Don’t worry about heaven and hell. You are just a selfish prick if all you think is whether you got a place in heaven,or be spared from hell. Don’t you worry about heaven and hell. Look up the sky instead. And fly. And conquer it.

But do worry about how you treat other people. Be nice, be compassionate, be helpful. Don’t strive to be a genius, but first try not to be a douche, a jerk, or a prick. Your intelligence can not bring heaven to your life. But other people can. And hell they can bring also. So be nice to other people.

And do know this. Life is random. Life is not discriminate. Life is not racist. Life is not judgemental. Life just happens.

If bad things ever happen to you, there are only two possibilities. It is a direct consequence of your own deed, or it is just a pure random event. If it is the former, make a lesson out of it, and move on.

If you are certain it is NOT the former, make peace with yourself and accept that shit does happen. You will only be wasting time if you try to know whether the God just want to make your life miserable, or that you are being punished over some unknown reasons.

And especially for my future son, will you make a promise to me to be a classy guy? Please remember this: Close your eyes. Imagine you have a daughter, or imagine me, your mom. Imagine she is dating a guy just like you. Did you smile? No? Then change. Please, don’t have a dirty mind! Hahaha maybe you now are laughing when read that warning but it is real, not methapor. Have a dirty mind maybe is not really danger but if you wanna do the bad things to your lovely girl (if you are not married yet), I swear to not admit you as my son. If you really wanna do "that" based on love, then marry her soon. But if it is just your lust, then go to the prostitution. I will give you much money but then we don't have any related relation again or maybe I will kill you. I will dissapointed of you and you don’t want to see me cry, rite? So let’s team up! You know, I always keep my words dear.

And especially for my future daughter, will you make a promise to me to be a classy woman too? Trust me when you use your brain and be passionate, many guys will interest with you. Don’t waste yout time to spend it with the wrong person. You deserve a better person. Be nice and independent! Be a brain beauty behaviour girl! Happy go lucky! Be a single as long as possible hahaha, I don't teach you to be a PHP person but when love finds you, you must be faithful.

Then freedom is your entitlement. But remember, exercise your freedom so it does not violate other people’s freedom. Because if you do, it is not freedom, it is tyranny.

Respect knowledge, respect wisdom. There is not anything under or over the sky too scared for you to question, at every moment, till the day you die, find the opportunity to learn. Remember your teachers are all around you, be them people, writings, or even nature.

If there is one trait I hope you will never feel to smart. And when you never feel too smart to learn, you will continue learning for the rest of your life. And a truly wise person you shall become. And with that wisdom, I pray that you find your real happiness.

I shall cease to exist in this world, that is just the life is. When that day come, you will learn to let me go. By then, you may already have a child of your own, and that you too pass on the lessons of life to him.

But even if you don’t, remember you can still share your wisdom, your knowledge, your discoveries, to other people, so that they can become your Children in Knowledge and Life.

This is all I can share with you, for now. Now live, and let me learn from you as well.

With all my heart. I love you.




Vintaa